Author Norma Pellett
I have a higher IQ than 98% of the population (Mensa level). My husband’s was probably between 110 and 120. I’m not sure because if he’s already had an IQ test, he did not tell me. I know that I am able to understand maths and more generally the sciences better than him.That said, we loved each other and supported our 47 years of marriage. We respected each other. We laughed together. We cried together.
If he did not understand something, I explained to him until he understood. He taught me to drive. No one has ever been treated as an inferior person.
He had more life experience than me because he was 20 years older than me. I had facilities in school. He had never needed to be much educated until he met me. I supported him in his choices, especially his desire to change jobs often. He supported me when I returned to school at age 40. He listened to me as I told him the exciting new things I was learning, even when he was not really interested.
I was at his side when he retired and I saw him learning to drive a bus and a fire truck when he was 65 years old. He learned to park them both niche.
One day, he asked me why I was with someone less intelligent than me. I told him that was not the case. There are more different intelligence than those measured by IQ tests.
Respect, laughter and love go a long way in upgrading the differences between two people. So yes, a relationship can work even if one person has a higher IQ than the other.
He died a year and a half ago. I miss him immensely.